In Memoriam

 

CLASSMATES WHO HAVE DIED SINCE OUR 65TH REUNION

or whose notice of death was received after reunion

Mary Backus Rankin   Mar. 9, 2020

Barbara Speegle Clark   May 3, 2021

Hyangju Paik Chon   June 6, 2021

Lisbeth (Babs) Gamble Nichols   July 2021

Patricia (Pat) Taylor Siskind    Aug. 27, 2021

Anne (Robin) McMahon Scanlon    Sept. 8, 2021               

Lois Ann Fraser McCartney   Sept. 15, 2021

Anne Rhoades Farquharson   Oct. 18, 2021

Barbara Roberts Leith   Oct. 22, 2021

Kate Trynin Kestenbaum   Oct. 26, 2021

Mary Rose McAlenney Weiland   Nov. 10, 2021

Marlene Allyn Murphy   Nov. 11, 2021

Florence Redding Jessup   Nov. 18, 2021

Carol "Bunny" Canaday Brown   Dec. 7, 2021 

Beth Montgomery Heath  Jan. 8, 2022

Ellie Zurn Hutt   Jan. 23, 2022

Barbara Booth Moses   Feb. 12, 2022

Nora Macfarlane Nevin  July 27, 2022

Ellen Birk Kallman   Aug. 2, 2022

Mary Russell Oleson   Oct. 18, 2022

Audrey Stearns Schoenwald  Oct 23, 2022

Judith Lees DeJong   Oct. 27, 2022

Cynthia Bryant McCue   Nov.14, 2022

Elaine Smith Amendola   Nov. 21, 2022

May Defandorf Dasch    Dec. 22, 2022

Stearly Alling   Jan. 26, 2023

Carol Pyne Schreiber   Mar. 17, 2023

Sylvia Lucas Miller   Apr. 7, 2023

Jean Tolman Andrews   Apr. 29, 2023

Sherry  Scott Putney   May 16, 2023

Caroline Gleason Oberndorf   May 17, 2023

Susan Matheney Wells   June 20, 2023

Merle Goldin Bogin   June  22, 2023

Barbara Hanna Flanigan  (no date available)

Joan Mathis Scales   July 9, 2023

Judy Waterman Hart   July 28, 2023

Linda Snodgrass Jourgensen   Sept. 21, 2023

Mary Fenn Hazeltine   Oct. 5, 2023

Carolyn Bone Lafave   Oct. 10, 2023

Ann Snyder Silverman   Oct. 23, 2023

Ann Cleminshaw Limbach  Oct. 12, 2023

Trudy Richards Russell   Nov. 18, 2023

Louise Govett Thayer   Dec. 3, 2023

Marlene Zanke Hoerle   Dec. 12, 2023

Carlin Whitney Scherer   Dec. 15, 2023

Pamela Denny Blackford   Dec. 16, 2023

Jane Nieuwenhuis Baker   Jan. 12, 2024

Polly Newton Camp   Jan. 11, 2024

Jane Britton Buchanan   July 22, 2024

Joan Ward Lasley   July 23, 2024

Helen Glass Gough   July 26, 2024

Clarissa Ruttgers Parsonage   July 30, 2024

Anne Abramovitz Winograd   Oct.  3,  2024

Constance Creden Ellis   Oct. 20,  2024

Patricia Jack Porter   Oct. 31,  2024

Joan Craig Frank   (no date available)

Ina Lee Brown Ramer   Dec. 2,  2024

Ann Rockefeller Roberts    Dec.  18,  2024

Madeline Tiger. Dec.  6,  2024

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In Remembrance...by Maud Hazeltine Chaplin

65th Reunion.....Sunday May 23, 2021

 

As always, when we gather in remembrance of those we have lost since the last time we were together, words seem inadequate to express our sadness.  Because words fail us, we meet here today to share the loss we feel.   We want them here.  Instead we converse with them, both as individuals and as a group, through our memories.

Each one of us  here has memories of those we  held especially close—roommates, dorm mates, those whom we know through our majors, those we became close to after we left Wellesley—and there are some whom we knew only slightly.  But with all of them, we shared a life—those years we had together at Wellesley, when we laughed, worked, talked and talked some more, got excited together, sometimes got sad together, rejoiced and lamented, sang, danced (remember "Who the Devil is the Devil?) and sometimes complained loudly and vigorously about what was going on in the world.  

These moments are now memories—but all the more important for that.  We should not let those memories go—because they are memories of our shared lives, and in honoring them, we honor those whom we miss.  We grieve because they can no longer do these things—and, more selfishly, we grieve because we want them back—we miss them, we long for them, we have so much more we would like to do with them.

            And that is precisely what we should do.  One of my favorite quotations is from Gilda Radner, who said:

“I wanted a perfect ending…Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end.  Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next.  Delicious ambiguity.”

            We do not know what will happen next.  But we do know that we have to go ahead, do the things that they did not have the time to do, give the love that they had not run out of when they left us.  Our remembrance is to do it for them.  Their lives will be expressed through your memory.   Your memory of them will be expressed in your lives.